With all these wedding stuffs, it makes me realize two things.
(1) In search for the right one, the perfect man might not be our Mr.Right. What important is, he is the perfect one for us. He may have some flaws, or may even have a lot of flaws, but somehow we know that he is the right one of us. After all, no one is perfect right? Including ourselves. So, why do our Mr.Right has to be perfect? When we know he is our Mr.Right, we see perfection in the imperfection. But of course, one thing that I think everyone needs to have is the desire to be better--that includes ourselves, and our Mr.Right. People will change over time, so why not changing for the better with our Mr.Right?
(2) We know that wedding costs a LOT, but we tend to save for our wedding when we actually have found our Mr.Right, since saving before finding our Mr.Right may make us look dreamy/pathetic/living in a fantasy. But trust me, we will spend more when we have found our Mr.Right, so trying to save at that time is kinda pointless. So, to singles out there, start saving before it's too late! Just ignore what other people might say! (or just answer you are saving for a holiday oversea instead)
p/s: scholarship result today. *bit nails*
Monday, December 21, 2009
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Short update
Done with the marriage course yesterday. It was not bad at all, apparently. I think it was better than the one I went in 2004. Maybe it's because the lecturers were good, and now that I have someone, I could totally relate to what they were saying. Plus, I did not feel too embarrass compared to 5 years ago, when they were talking about things related to relationship between a husband and a wife (a.k.a. sex. Well, it's a course about marriage anyway).
Btw, I can't do much now, since nothing is confirmed until the result of tomorrow's meeting (about my scholarship) comes out. Till then, I'm just browsing through halls for my wedding venue.
p/s: I found a link listing telephone numbers of possible wedding venue. One of them was the number for Taman Tasik Titiwangsa. My mom told me to just try calling them, asking for the price--just for fun. We know we cannot afford it. Hahaha
Btw, I can't do much now, since nothing is confirmed until the result of tomorrow's meeting (about my scholarship) comes out. Till then, I'm just browsing through halls for my wedding venue.
p/s: I found a link listing telephone numbers of possible wedding venue. One of them was the number for Taman Tasik Titiwangsa. My mom told me to just try calling them, asking for the price--just for fun. We know we cannot afford it. Hahaha
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Kursus Kahwin
I just booked two places in a marriage course (kursus kahwin), which will be held this weekend in Setiawangsa. This is the link.
Btw, this will be my second marriage course because I lost my certificate for the first course that I attended. Hahaha. But that's fine. Knowledge is never a bad thing.
Mari berkursus! :)
Btw, this will be my second marriage course because I lost my certificate for the first course that I attended. Hahaha. But that's fine. Knowledge is never a bad thing.
Mari berkursus! :)
The engagement--her story
For his story, click here.
It's 4:08pm and already I don't have the mood to do a more beneficial thing. So I guess I fill this blog with yet another post.
I will write about the engagement day, held on December 12, 2009 (last Saturday).
I recall it was a very busy week. With me just came back from the BTN camp, and getting that-time-of-the-month right after, I did not feel eager of even energized enough to do all the preparation. I should give credit to my dad as he was the one who took care of all the cleaning that needed to be done.
Anyway, the day before the engagement, my sister had a terrible stomachache. So I had to take her to the clinic at 11:40pm and we reached home 50 minutes after that. I was tired and was prepared to go to bed, when my dad did not let me sleep because he said he wanted to take a nap and he was scared no one would wake up on time on the big day. And so I stayed up, thinking everyone else had gone to bed and I would have to wake them up after about an hour. Yet, after an hour, I realized my dad did not go to sleep and I stayed awake for nothing. The same thing happened till it was 4 am, and I decided to go to bed anyway, no matter what my dad said. I was planning to wake up at around 8 am.
At 6:50 am, my dad woke me up and asked me to move the cars to the neighbors lawn. Being sleepy and irritated, I moved the cars anyway. After complaining about my dad to my mom, I went back to sleep and woke up again at 8:45 am.
And no, I did not take my shower right after. I had to clean the cups and glasses, arrange the chocolates for the hantaran, and do other chores around the house (so much for being the woman of the day). Ibik and KakYah arrived safely at around 9:40 am, and I finally got to take my shower at around 10:15 am (after ignoring my dad's command to sweep the floor).
After showering, I went to Farid's (my brother) place next door to get ready as the ceremony would take place there. Due to tight budget, I did my own makeup, and Ibik acted as my photographer/mak andam. The makeup turned out okay I guess, considering I had to wear more colors for the engagement although normally I would only use natural color for my makeup. By the way, Ibik and KakYah kept on saying I looked like a professional makeup artist since I used all these brushes and stuffs. Again, they were NOT commenting on the makeup I did on my face, only on the tools. Hahahahampeh.
Anyway, Ajoy and his rombongan arrived when it was close to noon. I did not know what happened during the discussion, as I could not be involved in it. All that I know is that I was asked to go out for the sarung cincin, salam-salam, and picture taking. The sarung cincin was done by my future sister-in-law since the place was limited and my future mother-in-law could not reach my hand from where she was sitting. After the sarung cincin, I had to go around the hall to shake hand with everyone (which was soooooo awkward). When the discussion was about to end, I was called once again to sit in front of the hantaran, in the middle of the discussion circle, for pictures. Awkward. Once again.
After the whole thing ended, people gathered around me for pictures. I felt weird having to keep a sweet (erk?!) face all through out the picture taking session, but my mom did a poyo pose in one of the picture (told you, it's genetic). Then it's time for picture with the fiance (whee~!). However, Ajoy was forced to sit at a distance from me as all the grandmoms and aunts said cheerfully, "Eh, takleh duduk dekat2 lagi..haa taruk ni kat tengah buat jarak," and they cheerfully pulled the sirih junjung in between me and him. The weird thing was, they asked my future brother-in-law to sit right next to me in the same picture because they said the picture was not balanced (pasrah gile).
Anyway, after that, everyone headed to my house for some feast. Me, my friends (Ibik, KakYah n Safiyyah), and some of my relatives stayed at my brother's place and ate there because my house was too packed.
After a while, they all went back home, and I had to stop eating and run to wash my hand to send them off (mmg tak senonoh).
And so, the conclusion of the discussion was, the date will be discussed later, due to my unconfirmed study planning, but it will surely be next year (insyaAllah).
Eh, panjang pulak entry ni.
p/s: I was told that his family came complete with pantun, but my family couldn't reply. Hahahahampeh buat malu jek
p/p/s: I was also told that his family came with a tepak sirih, wrapped in three layers of clothes. In order to accept the peminangan, a representative of my family needed to open the wrapers and eat the sirih. But since my family representative did not eat sirih, he only took the sirih and kept it. I was also told that the three layers wrap represents the time we will be engaged--3 days or 3 weeks or 3 months or 3 years. I told my friends to come back after 3 days. Hahaha.
It's 4:08pm and already I don't have the mood to do a more beneficial thing. So I guess I fill this blog with yet another post.
I will write about the engagement day, held on December 12, 2009 (last Saturday).
I recall it was a very busy week. With me just came back from the BTN camp, and getting that-time-of-the-month right after, I did not feel eager of even energized enough to do all the preparation. I should give credit to my dad as he was the one who took care of all the cleaning that needed to be done.
Anyway, the day before the engagement, my sister had a terrible stomachache. So I had to take her to the clinic at 11:40pm and we reached home 50 minutes after that. I was tired and was prepared to go to bed, when my dad did not let me sleep because he said he wanted to take a nap and he was scared no one would wake up on time on the big day. And so I stayed up, thinking everyone else had gone to bed and I would have to wake them up after about an hour. Yet, after an hour, I realized my dad did not go to sleep and I stayed awake for nothing. The same thing happened till it was 4 am, and I decided to go to bed anyway, no matter what my dad said. I was planning to wake up at around 8 am.
At 6:50 am, my dad woke me up and asked me to move the cars to the neighbors lawn. Being sleepy and irritated, I moved the cars anyway. After complaining about my dad to my mom, I went back to sleep and woke up again at 8:45 am.
And no, I did not take my shower right after. I had to clean the cups and glasses, arrange the chocolates for the hantaran, and do other chores around the house (so much for being the woman of the day). Ibik and KakYah arrived safely at around 9:40 am, and I finally got to take my shower at around 10:15 am (after ignoring my dad's command to sweep the floor).
After showering, I went to Farid's (my brother) place next door to get ready as the ceremony would take place there. Due to tight budget, I did my own makeup, and Ibik acted as my photographer/mak andam. The makeup turned out okay I guess, considering I had to wear more colors for the engagement although normally I would only use natural color for my makeup. By the way, Ibik and KakYah kept on saying I looked like a professional makeup artist since I used all these brushes and stuffs. Again, they were NOT commenting on the makeup I did on my face, only on the tools. Hahahahampeh.
Anyway, Ajoy and his rombongan arrived when it was close to noon. I did not know what happened during the discussion, as I could not be involved in it. All that I know is that I was asked to go out for the sarung cincin, salam-salam, and picture taking. The sarung cincin was done by my future sister-in-law since the place was limited and my future mother-in-law could not reach my hand from where she was sitting. After the sarung cincin, I had to go around the hall to shake hand with everyone (which was soooooo awkward). When the discussion was about to end, I was called once again to sit in front of the hantaran, in the middle of the discussion circle, for pictures. Awkward. Once again.
After the whole thing ended, people gathered around me for pictures. I felt weird having to keep a sweet (erk?!) face all through out the picture taking session, but my mom did a poyo pose in one of the picture (told you, it's genetic). Then it's time for picture with the fiance (whee~!). However, Ajoy was forced to sit at a distance from me as all the grandmoms and aunts said cheerfully, "Eh, takleh duduk dekat2 lagi..haa taruk ni kat tengah buat jarak," and they cheerfully pulled the sirih junjung in between me and him. The weird thing was, they asked my future brother-in-law to sit right next to me in the same picture because they said the picture was not balanced (pasrah gile).
Anyway, after that, everyone headed to my house for some feast. Me, my friends (Ibik, KakYah n Safiyyah), and some of my relatives stayed at my brother's place and ate there because my house was too packed.
After a while, they all went back home, and I had to stop eating and run to wash my hand to send them off (mmg tak senonoh).
And so, the conclusion of the discussion was, the date will be discussed later, due to my unconfirmed study planning, but it will surely be next year (insyaAllah).
Eh, panjang pulak entry ni.
p/s: I was told that his family came complete with pantun, but my family couldn't reply. Hahahahampeh buat malu jek
p/p/s: I was also told that his family came with a tepak sirih, wrapped in three layers of clothes. In order to accept the peminangan, a representative of my family needed to open the wrapers and eat the sirih. But since my family representative did not eat sirih, he only took the sirih and kept it. I was also told that the three layers wrap represents the time we will be engaged--3 days or 3 weeks or 3 months or 3 years. I told my friends to come back after 3 days. Hahaha.
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Color
I think the most important thing in a wedding is the theme color. Western weddings tend to use white as their theme color, while Eastern weddings tend to be more colorful.
So, which color to choose?
I believe the color that we choose will bring out the 'feel' of the wedding. For example, white will give a more dreamy feeling, while the combination of blue and pink will give a more 'festive' feeling. Other than that, color can also effect the look of the wedding. For example, a combination of white and gold/dark brown will make the wedding look more expensive and elegant, while the wrong shade of blue will make it look cheap, no matter how much the actual cost is. Hence, the right theme color will reflect what we want the wedding to look like.
As for me, I want my wedding to look dreamy, laid back, and expensive/elegant (since clearly I won't be using anything expensive in my wedding, so a look-expensive color combination will greatly help). So, I choose to use white-gold/dark brown color combination for my wedding. The addition of some off-white roses and a little bit of green for the leaves would give a more laid-back atmosphere. That would be perfect.
Initially I wanted to use white-silver/grey color combination for the solemnization ceremony. However, due to some technical difficulties, I had to change my dress into all white, and my future husband will be wearing white-black-gold/orange. Due to those modifications, I think I'll make 'garden' as the theme of the ceremony. I think white, green, brown and some pastel-colored flowers would work well.
All in all, the keyword for both events is: Dreamy.
After all, this whole wedding thing is like a dream come true anyway :)
So, which color to choose?
I believe the color that we choose will bring out the 'feel' of the wedding. For example, white will give a more dreamy feeling, while the combination of blue and pink will give a more 'festive' feeling. Other than that, color can also effect the look of the wedding. For example, a combination of white and gold/dark brown will make the wedding look more expensive and elegant, while the wrong shade of blue will make it look cheap, no matter how much the actual cost is. Hence, the right theme color will reflect what we want the wedding to look like.
As for me, I want my wedding to look dreamy, laid back, and expensive/elegant (since clearly I won't be using anything expensive in my wedding, so a look-expensive color combination will greatly help). So, I choose to use white-gold/dark brown color combination for my wedding. The addition of some off-white roses and a little bit of green for the leaves would give a more laid-back atmosphere. That would be perfect.
Initially I wanted to use white-silver/grey color combination for the solemnization ceremony. However, due to some technical difficulties, I had to change my dress into all white, and my future husband will be wearing white-black-gold/orange. Due to those modifications, I think I'll make 'garden' as the theme of the ceremony. I think white, green, brown and some pastel-colored flowers would work well.
All in all, the keyword for both events is: Dreamy.
After all, this whole wedding thing is like a dream come true anyway :)
Welcome to The Two Aries' Blog
Now that we are officially engaged, I guess a separate blog for the wedding preparation is appropriate (since I don't want to fill my main blog with too much personal stuffs). I actually have set up a website on ewedding.com about a month ago, but with its more formal look, I think I would use it as an e-invitation card and would only reveal it when it's closer to the wedding day. Anyway, this blog will be our more informal and personal wedding website; hence, pardon all the mushy-ness that may likely to pop up in all the future posts.
Anyway, enough with the introduction. Let's go to some more important (?!) stuffs.
Hmm..thinking back, I think maybe later..I am too sleepy. Sorry for making you guys read this. Haha.
Good night everyone. I promise I'll update asap.
Byebye.
Anyway, enough with the introduction. Let's go to some more important (?!) stuffs.
Hmm..thinking back, I think maybe later..I am too sleepy. Sorry for making you guys read this. Haha.
Good night everyone. I promise I'll update asap.
Byebye.
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